g,day all from sydney.
i've been dropping in to the board since being d'fd a month ago and have been very encouraged by the posts and they way everyone has been able to move on since leaving the collective.. being a 5th generation, it was always very hard for me to imagine life life outside the truman show bubble.
having a huge extended family who are all believers means that i now have virtually nil social contacts.. soon to be divorced, the only contact i have with my past life is weekend visits from my 7 year old boy and 9 year old girl.
Beaker,
That was fantastic! You are so right - the world is a great place and its waiting for you - come on in and enjoy it.
Like you when I left I walked away from my family ( did not have hubbie & kids at that point) but walked from everyone else. Sure was a scary time but I got over it and am now better and stonger than ever.
Keep up the writing you have a gift,
L
yesterday i got to meet my second cousin who was a jw for 45 years and left some years back.
i also met her hubby, who was an elder for 30 years.
very nice folks, we had a blast looking at family photographs and discussing all of our jw sorted stories....
Do tell all - sounds great!
L
i just wanted to introduce myself before launching myself at the various threads.
i left when i was 14 and that was 30 years ago, i thought i was well over it but when i read some of the postings on here they really got to me.
there are definitely long term effects.
I agree with you all - you don't realise how much it affects you until you read and can relate to how other people were affected.
Myauntfanny - Welcome and I hope you enjoy this site. I am still very new to it myself but have really enjoyed it. Everyone is so welcoming and friendly - a great bunch of people!
Kind Regards
L
PS you are right about us Scots & brits - fanny is much worse than ass but oh so funny - LOL
hope and endurance in brooklyn.
there may be a few that are aware that hope and endurance are the theme of the current two-day circuit assembly.
last weekend i attended the assembly at the brooklyn assembly hall.
Who will they hire as lawyers if no witness kids go to college? They ask the brains of the congs in Scotland to go work at bethel for free - who will man bethel now?
Glad my kids are in the world
L
before i start: for the jw who i think will most definately read this thread i want to say this.
if you come knocking on my door after this and ask me personal questions i will have you in court for harrassment faster than you can say "jehovah".
don't risk it.
Sirona,
Well done you!!!!!!
Have a fantastic wedding day when it comes,
Hope you don't have any problems with elders - as a word of encouragement though and this is a true story ?
I know of someone in a similar position to you who denied that she had committed fornication. Said categorically to the elders, that she was not doing anything wrong and that she would take it further if they tried to imply otherwise. She stood her ground and won. She then disappeared slowly from the cong with no action against her.
L
i found this very funny.
we recently moved about a 1000 miles from our home state.
the night before we left we spent the night at my in-laws.
Not so funny is it? Glad you are out. Go be happy in the world,
L
deep down, i guess i know the answer to this one, but what the heck?
is it common for someone to have a diminished jw social life for no other reason than being a low-hour publisher?
not to seem conceited, but at the hall i was always smiling and quick-witted (i believe), talked to all types happily, gave good talks and demos, dressed well, smelled good, etc.
I hate to say it but as a regular pioneer who had attended pioneer school, I had what I thought was a great social life! BUT - I was warned against hanging out with other JW's who were not as 'spiritual' because I was there as an example - can you believe it?
I was in with the 'in crowd' and was invited out all the time - I would love to think it was because of my fantastic good looks, my amazing sense of humour but who is kidding who - it was all about the class system.
I will never allow myself to be dictated to again over whom I have as a friend and whom I don?t!! NEVER AGAIN!!!
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i just thought i should a line and say hello to everyone.. as you may be able to tell i am new to this but i have to say the set up and lay out of the pages is excellent and i look forward to many good discussions and humour also.. take care.
g. i promise to improve my posts in the future by the way.
Hi and welcome!
So nice to see another Scottish person on the forum! Looking forward to getting to know you,
L
ok, who remembers all those long prayers?
especially at the district conventions!.
we had our convetions at a small hockey arena and the stairs were really steep.
LOL ? this has brought back so many memories!!!
I remember ?? and this is really embarrassing ???..
I was about 9 years old and we were at the district assembly. I was at the age where my mum thought that I could control my bladder in time with the breaks ? a mistake any witness mum could make! It was final prayer time and the elder was making a real meal of it. It went on and on and on.
So as I danced about pleading to go to the toilet she kept saying sh sh you can go in a minute - well my bladder had other ideas and I pee?d myself - realising what was happening she felt terrible and let me go ? I kept trying to hold on to it but I pee?d all the way to the toilet ? had no idea your bladder could hold that much!!!
I left a nice wet trail all the way behind me!
I never had to stand through another long prayer again ? I just asked for the toilet and I got freedom right away!
L
i'm just doing this as an easy reference point for our new board members who came here seeking advice on their witness/non-witness romantic relationships.
questions for board members: .
* have you been in this type of relationship?
Met my partner about 2 weeks before I was df'd. He stood by me while almost my whole family turned their back on me. He was there to hold my hand and comfort me while I shed my tears. On the odd occasions when we would see my family ? at other non JW family functions, he would have to put up with my parents telling him they had nothing against him personally but that they wanted me to leave him and go back to the ?truth?.
As I said on the post of my story, just after I got df?d he sent me a really nice card and inside it said simply ?
?Welcome to the world?
He is my sole mate and the father of my two kids.
He is not perfect but he is mine and I love him.
L.
